Hello my frost bitten kittens! I have a pot of soup on as I am sitting down to answer the end of the year questions from you devoted fans. We have had some wonderfully complex letters this year and hope to keep the momentum in 2006. So, if you have something that you want to ask Dear Daisy no matter what the subject is; e-mail me at Dear.Daisy@sbcglobal.net or drop me a line by USPS to Dear Daisy c/o BOI Magazine 3711 Ashland Ave., 2nd Floor Chicago, IL 60613.We at Daisy Mae Laboratories will do our best to find an answer to all your queries. Now let's see what is new this time.

Dear Daisy,
I was just wondering if you could answer this question: Why are people so stupid?? I've checked the water, that doesn't seem to be the culprit.
Signed,
Smart on Southport

Dear Smart,
I think it is because some people just don't think about things and don't think about how they can make things better. It's not so much stupidity as being really complacent, and not understanding people who aren't completely content with the way things are.

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Dear Daisy,
I keep finding out that my boyfriend has been downloading porn from the internet. We have went through this several times in the past and the last time I told him that if I find out again, I am going to leave him because I can't handle it. My outlook is that a man cannot watch porn and still be content with his lover. I cannot stay with someone who keeps doing this and lying to me.

We have been together for about 3 1/2 years and I can't handle this. Should I just give it up and say that it's okay because some men do it? Any advice?

Signed,
Outraged in Oak Park

Dear Outraged,
Porn has such a bad rap. It lets people fantasize about something for as long as it takes to jerk off, then go about their day. It rakes in billions of dollars a year in revenue and that is because TONS of people buy it, or download it, or rent it. Even people who don't are bound to have seen a fag mag at some point, or a little bit of a video at a party, or something.

I have yet to meet a guy who hasn't looked at porn at some point, or who isn't probably looking at porn right now. On top of that, they are enthusiastic about what they are doing, which, if you ask any dude, is the one thing that makes being with you enjoyable. Enthusiasm is attractive. Add to that the whole sex-bomb thing and what guy wouldn't want to get some porn once in awhile?

I like porn, so I am a little biased. And I realize whatever I say is not going to make you like porn. I think the real issue here is that you have a problem with something he does. A serious problem, you've talked to him about it, and he is disregarding it. That is your problem. Not the porn thing. You need to ask him why he doesn't think you are serious about this issue, and why he thinks that he can just go behind your back. That is disrespectful. Is it enough to leave him over? Talk to him one more time about it, and if it happens again, then yes.