Greetings to all you fabulous readers out there! With each passing issue I am noticing that there is no problem to big or too small for me to tackle. From mechanics to orgasms and everywhere in between, I will answer your queries. Just send your questions to Dear Daisy c/o BOI Magazine 3711 N. Ashland Ave., 2nd floor Chicago, IL 60613 or e-mail me
at MsMae@mchsi.com and I will answer your questions. Until then try to learn something new every day!Dear Daisy
I guess I could be considered a virgin to gay sex, well, not sex, but kissing a man. . Could you please also provide some information about what I need to be careful of while I'm kissing him? (I guess that it's not just pushing my mouth to his?!) Please help.Inexperienced twenty-three-year-old guy
Dear Inexperienced twenty-three-year-old guy,
Learning to kiss is a bit like learning how to ride a bike. You are scared to try, but it looks like so much fun on TV, if you have Showtime or HBO! Eventually, the fear subsides and you give it a try. What a thrill that first ride is, and then... down you go! That's OK, you had fun, so you know you'll try again. Kissing isn't too much different. The best thing is, just like riding a bicycle, once you learn, you'll never forget. Also remember each kiss will be different, depending on who you are kissing and how you feel about the person.
But you wanted Daisy to give you some kissing consideration: You are absolutely right, you don't want to "just push" your mouth to his. It's probably easiest to begin with a peck on the cheek. Just pucker up, tilt your head a little to the side, gently plant your lips on the person's cheek, and follow through with the puckering motion. This might give you the confidence to try kissing on the lips. It's the same basic movement of your lips, only now the other person's lips are involved in the action, too, which may make it a little easier. A few things to bear in mind when going for the big kiss: do not open your mouth until your lips have reached the kissee's lips, avoid bumping teeth, and make sure there's no food in your mouth (as if...!).
Then there's the "French kiss," which involves your and the other person's tongue. Approach your French kiss gently, with no quick and sudden movements of your tongue. Avoid what some call "the frog" (sticking your tongue all the way out inside the kissee's mouth). Your tongue will most likely be met by the other person's, and both of you can go from there, figuring out what is pleasurable.
If you want to practice before trying a kiss on a person, try it out on your arm or your hand (by making a pair of lips with your thumb and index finger) to see how it feels, or practice with a pillow. Pay close attention to the face-sucking scenes in movies or TV shows (any soap opera will suffice).
You'll never know what it's like until you try it. When the opportunity presents itself, pucker up and go for it! You may be surprised at how easy and fun kissing can be.
Dear Daisy,
Is it true that a man's erect penis size can be predicted by dividing his shoe size in half?Signed,
Little NikeDear Little Nike,
Certainly not, no more than big hands and a big nose mean anything more than large gloves and extra room to store boogers. If there's research out there based on something other than fantasy, which counters this declaration, please pass it along.
Dear Daisy,
My friends and I share a common dilemma: we have, well, less than average penises (in terms of size that is). We got together and asked the question "Is it really that important?" Maybe you can help us out on this one.Signed,
The small boysDear Small boys,
You really can't be all that unusual - there's already a whole group of you!! Almost every male seems to envy someone else's penis. He wants one that's longer, wider, harder, with more staying power, and he assumes that some other man, or lots of other men, have one just like that. The truth is there is less variation among hard penises than among soft ones because a smaller soft penis will increase more in size during erection than a larger soft penis.
Men invariably assume that their partner will prefer a bigger penis. The reality is that your partner would most probably prefer a more skilled, caring, warm lover. Maybe you guys could stop focusing on your penis sizes, and instead work on developing your skills and exchanging tips on touching, kissing, caressing and lovemaking. What do you think?
After all it's hard to throw a toothpick into a tunnel.
