Dear Daisy,
If I have bars in my pierced nipples, can I easily get them changed to rings? I love my piercings, but the bars seem to be making it harder for them to heal. It's like the ball part of the bar is just pressing into my skin, leaving little red dents, and I'm afraid the longer I let them be like that the more likely it is there will be some sort of scarring or permanent damage. -Sam

Dear Sam,
It doesn't sound like the ball is your problem; it's the length of your barbell. When you get pierced, whatever area you get pierced is going to swell up a little. This may be why your barbell seems too small.
Changing your jewelry is not a problem, although it's usually better to wait until you're healed up. I would recommend that you contact your piercer and let them know you're having this problem, and they'll be able to help you pick out more comfortable jewelry that's a better size.
They will also be able to replace your jewelry for you, so you don't go and get yourself infected trying to put your new rings in your unhealed nipples. Make sure you're doing your aftercare to the letter, too, in case the swelling is due to you not keeping things in good shape.

Dear Daisy,
I'm planning a Halloween party with friends and want to include some coworkers that I enjoy chatting up at the office. Several of my coworkers are fun to hang out with, and one is particularly cute, but many are a pain to deal with on a daily basis. I really don't want them (especially my supervisor) to feel welcome to drink my drinks and eat my eats in my home. How do I invite some folks but not all without looking like a jackass? -Bea

Dear Bea,
I am one of the great party planners of the century, so please take my advice. Make a guest list of peopleyou want to invite and ask them for their home phone numbers or personal e-mail addresses. Then you can call or e-mail them when you're not at work. See, the best way to invite some people over and not others is to keep it covert. Don't let everyone in the office know that you're having a party unless you want everyone to come.
It would be unprofessional to do your party planning at work anyway, so even if you did want to invite everyone it should still be taken care of on your own time.

Dear Daisy,
I am looking for information on how to make a substance we called glup. It is made from mixing glue, Borax, and water. I would like to know the proportions that are used as mine did not turn out exactly right when I tried it. Thank you for your information.
Sandy

Dear Sandy,
I've scoured the web for the answer to your question and I've found instructions for making goop, glorp and smores but no glup. I did, however, find some really natty pictures of a naked Jim Neighbors. Thanks for encouraging me to explore.

Hey Daisy, Why the hell would I want to ask you anything?? Who the hell are you?

I've been waiting for someone to ask me this. There is no reason someone would want to ask me anything but people do and I reply to them out of the kindness of my own heart. I take time away from my husband, kids and dying grandmother to help folks who are having troubles helping themselves. It's the least I can do for all the beautiful, caring people of this great City of ours. Thank you for your question and be sure to write again soon.