Well Kittens, its not whether you win or lose,yes it is. Its a bitch to lose! But you never have to lose if you ask questions. So if you have a question, just ask! You can e-mail me at Dear.Daisy@sbcglobal.net or send it by disgruntled postal workers to BOI Magazine, 3711 N. Ashland 2nd Floor Chicago, IL 60613. Now, on to the letters!

 

Dear Daisy,
I was wondering you hear so many horror stories, but how much anal sex do you actually have to have before your sphincter stops working properly and you can't hold your poop in anymore?? That would not be very good. Please reply!
Thanks, Loose in Lakeview

Dear Loose,
I do not think that it is an issue of quantity so much as size... like you can have tons of anal sex with an average dude and be ok with it. I think the problems arise when you are trying to put extremely large objects (or wieners) up in there. I think at some point you just go for something a little bigger, bust a gasket, and then you gotta duct tape your ass shut in order to make it through the workday without having to change your pants. I am not a professional, since the idea of anal sex pretty much terrifies me (ouchie), but that is what I think. (I hear you can get it fixed though... like, a doctor can sew it back up for you and you will be able to carry on like nothing happened.) P.S. Please try to control yourself at Market Days.

Dear Daisy,
I'm a freshman in college, and am a homo. I met a guy who I really get along with, we like the exact same music and everything. He doesn't know I'm gay and the thing is, I think he's gay but I don't know for sure. If he is, I want to be in a relationship with him, but I don't know how to bring the subject about considering its delicate and kinda tricky. Though you may not have any experience in this field, do you have any advice?
You're the best, Fresh-Man

Dear Fresh,
Hmmmm. This is a toughie. If you were a dude and he was a chick, I would tell you to just kiss him, but with whole you-are-both-dudes thing, it could backfire and you could get your ass kicked. Plus, even if he is gay, too, he might not have come to terms with his gayness and be ready to have a relationship. Or he might be gay and just not have it for you. Whew. I can see your problem. If I were you, I would just let him know you are gay. Then, if he lets you know that he is gay, you can flirt with him and see how that goes. Good luck!! Oh by the way if you are that horny, suggest the theater. You know what I mean (Wink, wink!)

Dear Daisy,
I have been seeing my boyfriend for four weeks. He has told me all about his past relationships. Is it safe to stop using condoms now?
-Signed,
One at a Time?

Dear One at a Time,
You sound like you have a classic case of serial monogamy. That's only having sex with one person at a time, for a limited period of time, and then having sex with someone else -- a pretty common pattern in high school and college. But, the drawback of this pattern is thinking you're safe, simply because you're monogamous, so you stop using condoms. But, the truth is that this kind of monogamy lasts a relatively short period of time -- four weeks, two months, a year -- and then you start dating someone else. You feel safe and comfortable with her/him, so you stop using condoms again. And, with each time, you are subjecting yourself to the risk of contracting or transmitting HIV, as well as other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Mary, unless it has been many, many moons, keep it covered.

Dear Daisy,
I am a twenty-three-year-old male who has a question about my scrotum. My scrotum seems to be tight up against my body, only sometimes does it drop a little lower. I thought that maybe my scrotum was just late in growing properly. Now I am not so sure. What should I do?
Scrotum Sense

Dear Scrotum Sense,
I, Dear Daisy happen to be somewhat of an authority on the male genital area. Imagine that! Inside the scrotum is a muscle that is affected by temperature. When there is warmth, the muscle relaxes and drops, making the scrotum and the testicles hang lower. Cold makes the muscle contract. It is normal for the scrotum to go through these changes, and is not a problem. I have dealt with many a scrotum in my days. In your letter, you mentioned your scrotum, not your testicles. There is another condition, however, in which one, or both, of the testicles have not descended from the body cavity into the scrotum. See if you can feel your two testicles inside of your scrotum. They may feel like almonds in the shell (hence the nickname, "nuts", isn't that clever?). You can also feel for a cord, the vas deferens, which is attached to each of the testicles. If you cannot feel one, or both, of your testicles, or have trouble identifying them, Daisy suggests that you make an appointment with a urologist. Call your physician for the name of someone reputable to see, or call the nearest teaching hospital to ask for a referral.